Can someone believe in you more than you believe in yourself???

It’s one of the questions that I bring up daily. Thousands daily say they want to pursue something. A job, education, sports, entertainment, music. But if you the person saying you “want” to do something do not truly believe you can pull it off is it the job of the people around you to take up the slack? People around you can support you, help you, guide you, but you still have to do it. They can’t shoot the jumper, walk the runway, produce the track, create the business plan for you. They shouldn’t have to.

Once you step out of the boundries of “sitting still” and notify people that you’re going to do something, you do involve people by default. Don’t waste their time by fibbing to yourself that you’re going to follow through. Family members, work associates, school mates, boyfriends, girlfriends, they are all involved when you say “I want to do this”. If you decide not to do it, respect them, and thell them. That’s only fair.

Over the years I’ve seen time and time again the results of not believing in yourself. I helped run a studio years ago. Tons of talented artists came through, layed down some hot music. Most never finished what they started. They were satisfied with being “talent show” artists rather than wanting to have the opportunity of being signed by a major label. I’ve seen talented clothing designers come and go. I’ve seen way to many stop trying after only a few weeks, thinking that it was going to be “instant success”. Striving for a goal isn’t like putting something in the microwave, pressing start and bam, hot pocket. It takes work, dedication, practice, faith, perseverance, energy and more. There has to be a constant effort daily to make it happen.

Look at all of the reality shows you’ve seen over the years. America’s Next Top Model, American Idol, Top Chef, Project Runway. Thousands submit to be the final 12, 14 or whatever. You know how many rounds they have to go through to get to that point? How much paperwork is involved? Traveling to the audition sites? For those that really believe they have the talent, they go for it. They train, get better, then do what is necessary to make it possible. Many make great sacrifices. The interviews on these shows of the contestants always talk about how they left school, job, family to try to make their dreams come true. If you’re not willing to make a sacrifice, nobody else should be required to.

You have to want it. If you don’t want people to see you as a professional in whatever industry you are pursuing, don’t mix words. If you’re the most talented, most beautiful person but nobody knows it, doesn’t do you much good. If you’re not willing to tell people that you exist, how does that help you? You decide what is important or a priority, nobody else.

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